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Is There Ever A Right Time?

My social media timelines are full to the brim with pregnancy announcements, gender reveals, beautiful baby bumps and photos of squishy newborn babes at the moment. And every time I see one, it has me feeling alllll the feels.

About six months ago I wrote this post about how I was feeling broody and it’s safe to say that the feeling has definitely not gone away. I have babies on the brain, big time. I even wake up in the middle of the night and my thoughts are consumed by all things pregnancy and baby related. It’s actually quite crazy and probably a bit weird, especially as I’m not even expecting yet!

I’m so desperate for all the excitement that pregnancy brings, all the planning, the last minute preparations, swooning over all those teeny tiny sleep suits. I try to remember what it’s like to feel those little kicks from the inside one day and then to cuddle your baby on the outside the next. I’m craving that intoxicating newborn smell and the adorable little noises and squeaks that new babies make. I’m longing for those night feeds, when the rest of the world is sleeping. I just can’t wait to experience it all once more.

After Bella was born we made a five year and a ten year plan and so far we have stuck to them. Of course there has been bumps along the way and it hasn’t all been plain sailing but we’re now approaching the bit where we agreed to start thinking about adding a second baby to our family (eeeeeekkk). As I’m sure you can tell I am ecstatic about the thought of having another, but at the same time, I just can’t help but feel extremely anxious about the whole thing too.

My heart is saying ‘YES, YES, YES’. My head however is being a bit more hesitant. Am I really ready? Will I cope with two children okay? How will we manage financially whilst I’m on Maternity leave? Is my heart big enough to love two babies? I also worry about the impact a new baby will have on Bella and how she’ll adjust to being a big sister. All these thoughts running through my head all day, every day are bloody exhausting.

Deep down, In my heart, I know I’m ready. We’re ready. I’m sure all these worries are probably quite normal. Deciding to have another baby is such a big decision and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Although I think that, really, when it actually comes down to it, there is never going to be a ‘right’ time, there will always be something that could hold us back a little longer, but I suppose sometimes you just have to follow your heart, hope things will be fairly straight forward and prey that we can be that lucky.

I’m not entirely sure why I’m writing this post, apologies if it’s a bit rambly, but I just felt like I needed to write my thoughts down. And hopefully I can look back at this post one day and realise that I needn’t have worried at all.

Has anyone else ever felt like this? Do you think there is ever a ‘right’ time?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.

And of course, I had to share a couple of my favourite photos of Bella at just a few days old taken by the very talented Charlotte Rawles Photography.

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Thanks so much for reading,
Harriet xo

17 Comments

  1. Wave to Mummy

    April 14, 2016 at 11:18 am

    I don’t think there is ever a right time – you could always be richer, better off, have this, have that… I think as long as you want a child, then that means it’s the right time 🙂 and I know what you mean about being broody – I want to have another one too 🙂

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:40 pm

      I knew I wouldn’t be the only broody one out there!! There really is never a right time 🙂 xxx

  2. Sonia

    April 14, 2016 at 1:22 pm

    It sounds like you are ready to me! You can’t possibly think about it anymore! There’s never a right time, you will never have enough money and the body clock is always ticking!! You will definitely have enough room in your heart for another (each one kind of builds their own extension!) and Bella will adore her sibling and enjoy being the ‘big girl’. I have three and the shop is now shut! I did only want 2 but the overwhelming feelings got me and we went for the illusive boy and got him!! Hope it all works out for you xx

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:39 pm

      Thanks for your lovely comment Sonia. I think you might be right. I’m sure we will take the plunge soon!! Bella will be a wonderful big sister, I think I’m more worried about how I will cope to be honest! Thanks so much xxxx

  3. sabrina

    April 14, 2016 at 9:53 pm

    Aw I can relate, we had a plan and stick to it, but I was so broody in the years in between! I’m now pregnant like we planned and it’s amazing. I do have worries about how I’ll cope with two, but that is life isn’t it! X

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:36 pm

      I’m glad someone else is also a planner. As broody as I am now, I know that waiting just a bit longer will be the right decision for us. I’m sure you will be wonderful with Two! xo

  4. lifewithpinkprincesses

    April 16, 2016 at 6:45 am

    There is never a right or wrong time. Things happen for a reason and we just deal with it as it comes as humans.

  5. Emma @sophieellaandme

    April 17, 2016 at 1:16 pm

    Lovely post and beautiful photos! I can definitely relate, I’m so broody and can’t wait to have another baby but I do have similar worries! I don’t think there’s ever a ‘right time’ but you just have to go for it! Good luck for when you do decide to have another baby. I’m sure Bella will make a great big sister! x

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      Thanks for your comment Emma. I’m glad someone feels the same. Good Luck to you guys too, I’m sure Sophie will also make a wonderful big sister one day! xo

  6. Janine

    April 18, 2016 at 8:33 am

    Generally it’s just a matter of “let’s just do this” I don’t think there’s ever a right time. I do find it hard to cope with my two sometimes particularly when hubby is away working 3 days a week but I get through it.

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      I do agree! I need to stop waiting for the perfect time I think. xo

  7. Victoria Marden

    April 18, 2016 at 3:07 pm

    I am so very broody and everyone seems to be pregnant at the moment. I watch the sacconejoly’s on youtube and they have just announced there third is on the way.

    I know that we can’t really afford another baby yet but hope for the future x

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      Yes I watch them also and just saw their announcement! I always think, never say never 🙂 xxx

  8. mrshsfavouritethings

    April 19, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    Such beautiful photos. They would make anyone broody. Sorry to say, that I am one of those people that has been filling your timeline. I am now 26 weeks pregnant with our second. But it has been a really tough ride to get here. It has taken us over two years and lots of heartbreak along the way. This has led me to believe that there is never a right time. And also life is too short to wait for everything to be perfect. If you and your other half want to try and have another baby, then I say go for it. All those worries will work themselves out. And you will also have a gorgeous new addition to your family. It sounds perfect to me. Hugs Lucy xxxx

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:32 pm

      Thank you so much Lucy. Some of my favourite ever photos. I think maybe sometimes we do overthink things and we do need to just go for it. Hopefully I can convince my husband this soon 😉 I’m sorry things have been a tough tide for you lovely, I hope those last weeks go smoothly! Thanks for your sweet comment xxxx

  9. lambandbear

    April 21, 2016 at 9:18 pm

    Go with your gut, there’s always going to be something in the way if you think too hard about it. We went from a 45+k joint salary and are now on a 15k joint salary with baby number 2 due next month. We are just dealing with the finances (no idea how, we get hardly any help with benefits etc). So my point is, you’ll cope, you’ll deal with it and most importantly you’ll love it! 🙂 xxx

    1. Harriet Lee

      April 28, 2016 at 2:26 pm

      I do agree but my husband like to have a plan and know that financially we’ll manage okay as we have quite high outgoings each month ect. I know we’ll make the decision soon, and I can’t wait to experience it all again! xo

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